A First Nation woman’s advice about seeking crisis support and recovery from Domestic Violence

“Don’t be nervous. I was nervous because I didn’t know what to expect when I went into the refuge. I had mixed feelings around leaving domestic violence, and about trying to seek help and support. It was a really good experience though. First, I talked to an intake and assessment worker over the phone – she was great and I felt comfortable enough to share my experience with the domestic violence staff. Even though I was crying, they were calm and assured me that we would get through this. When I completed the intake, they picked me up and took me to the refuge. They made sure the kids were comfortable. Women Up North covered all my needs and those of the children.

I had so many down days in the refuge, but someone was always there to have a yarn. I know that some people feel like they don’t have anyone, because that’s how I felt in my bad days. The Women Up North staff were there for me. They’re not just workers supporting us to escape domestic violence, they also support us on emotionally challenging days when we feel we have no one else, and help us get the help we need so we can start again.

It feels hard leaving domestic violence, but I made it through and now I am in my own place. I have started a part-time job and my children are all in school. I am proud of my family, for starting again and escaping the domestic violence.

A massive thanks to Women Up North team for their article contribution.